Basic Islamic Rules
“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well-acquainted with all that they do.” [Chapter number 24 verse number 30]
Islamic Rules: Mingling With the Opposite Gender
All the Islamic rules, shared below are applicable on both men and women:
Islamic Rules #1: If the following two conditions are met, men are allowed to speak to non-Mehram women:
- The conversation is not made with the intention of lust.
- The conversation does not lead to anyone of them to commit a sin.
Islamic Rule #2: A Muslim man should only talk to a non-Mehram woman if it is necessary, especially if the person spoken to is a young girl. Talking to a non-Mehram woman is other considered as Makruh (not liked) in Islam.
Islamic Rule #3: A man must not talk to a non-Mehram woman, if he knows that by doing it he will fall into sin. If the woman speaks in a seductive manner, quit the conversation. A man should not talk to a non-Mehram woman on topics which might make him commit a sin.
Islamic Rule #4: It is completely prohibited (Haram) for a man to speak to a non-Mahram woman aiming to make her fall into sin. Hence, erotic conversations are strictly prohibited in Islam.
Islamic Rule #5 If a man is sure of the fact that my talking to a non-Mehram woman he is compelled to sin (backbite, lie, putting false blame on someone, etc). Then it is not allowed for him to talk to her.
Islamic Rule #6: Imitating a woman’s voice is not an issue in Islam, if that man is not imitating the voice of a particular woman whom he knows to disrespect or dishonor her. It should not hurt anyone. Secondly, this act of imitation should not stimulate him and it is not something vain and futile. Same rulings are applicable on women.
Islamic Rule #7: Men are not allowed to share their intimate issues with non-Mehram women. When Satan takes over men, for the sake of prolonging the conversation with non-Mehram women at social gatherings they talk about things that could easily be answered by their male friends. Men should refrain from making such conversations and vice versa.
Ahadith Prohibiting Free Intermingling:
The Messenger of Allah, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), said, “I have not left a Fitnah (trial, calamity or cause for calamity) after me more than (the Fitnah) with women for men.” [Al-Bukhari & Muslim].
Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri said that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, “This Dunya (the life of this world) is beautiful and green, and Allah has made you Khulafaa’ (living in it generation after generation) in it. Therefore, be cautious with regards to this Dunya and be cautious with regards to women. Certainly, the first Fitnah that started between the Children of Israel, is the Fitnah with women.” [Ahmad].
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, “The best lines of men (in prayer) are the first ones and the worst are the last. The best lines of women (in prayer) are the last ones and the worst are the first.” [Muslim].
